When I was pregnant with Lydia, I remember reading a couple of books about pregnancy. My favorite that I picked up was a book called The Girlfriend’s Guide to Pregnancy: Or Everything Your Doctor Won’t Tell You. It was hilarious, witty, revolting, honest, and helpful.
As I’ve been thinking about starting this website, I’ve decided that that is what I want to do. I have yet to find a book like this - The Girlfriend’s Guide to Grieving: Or Everything Your Funeral Director Won’t Tell You - but I would read it if I found it! There are things people won’t tell you about being a person in grief, either because they don’t want to freak you out or because they aren’t aware enough of it all in the moment to put words to it. And just like childbirth, it’s scary and painful and so much is unknown and each experience is so different.
My hope is that people who are grieving can come here to find something to laugh about, something to identify with, and something to give them hope (or at least a cathartic experience!) I want to use this space to share my own words. I want to share books, poems, movies, videos, songs, or art I’ve come across that have helped me as I’ve grieved to understand myself or to give words to feelings I couldn’t quite grab onto before.
My plan is to start small. I'm jumping in now after weeks of planning because I just want to start. Expect that things will change if you decide to start spending some time here. I would love to some day have other people who have suffered all different types of losses to share something in this space. But for now, I’m your girlfriend offering you a guide through the world of grieving. I hate that we’re here but I’m glad we’re not alone.